What to Ask at Dinner with New Couples

Everyone has what John Maxwell calls a spiritual spot, and it is often tied to family. Dinner with a new couple is one of the best settings to find it, because you have time and a relaxed setting to let the conversation go somewhere real.

Open with small talk, then work the conversation toward the church rather than leading with it. The secret is to not talk much yourself. Ask loaded questions that open doors, let them answer, and keep a running list afterward of what you learned so you can follow up on it later.

How couples get picked for this is simple: it is whoever you actually see. Proximity drives the invite list more than any formal process.

Done consistently, this is a real growth engine apart from Sundays. Two new couples a week, just from dinners, can grow two families a week who never would have come through a weekend service alone.